[ID: two images of a multicolor ransom letter collage of the lyrics “i would beg to disagree, but begging disagrees with me” from fiona apple’s song “under the table” over a black background/end ID]
it’s amazing how ordinary objects can become so significant to only the owner
when my aunt’s best friend passed away, my younger brother was four years old. at his funeral, my brother went up to her and gave her a nickel. he told her very solemnly that it would make her feel better. she smiled for the first time in days, and tucked it in her wallet.
when my brother was 22, his best friend passed away unexpectedly. my aunt drove three hours to be there for him at the funeral. she went up to my brother, gave him a big hug, and then gave him a nickel. it was the same nickel; she had kept it in her wallet for 18 years, and now it’s on a necklace that he never takes off.
what i’m trying to say is that the love you put into the world will always find its way back to you.
i think nonbinary folks need to be louder and meaner about inclusion. we should refuse every effort to confine us to a “third” gender. we need to speak up about misguided “women & nonbinary” groupings, because nonbinary is not Girl Lite™. in fact we need to take the whole idea of Girl Lite™ and smash it with a hammer and put it in an acid bath. dissolve that garbage. nonbinary is fat, it’s femme, it’s masc, it’s both, it’s neither, it’s an infinitely diverse category, and the sooner we nuke this basic-ass milquetoast image of “thin young white afab person” (which, lbr, people also wrongly interpret those folks as ‘pretty much just girls who want to be special for some reason lol’) the freer and better off we will all be
People see “nonbinary” and think “okay so how can I fit this in as a sort of variation within the binary?”
One thing that’s vitally important to remember is that feeling “weirded out” is not a form of harm. It is a completely normal part of socializing. It is the feeling of encountering something unfamiliar. In order to be a kind person, you must learn to how to distinguish between “harmful” and “weird.” And then you must accept the weird.
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